Dealing with Grief
Grief – an Unwelcome Companion
Life for busy women is often a juggling act—balancing career and/or homemaking, family, and personal responsibilities. When a loved one is diagnosed with cancer, this delicate equilibrium is disrupted, and grief becomes an unwelcome companion. It is difficult to navigate the complex emotions of grief while managing busy lives.
Recently, I have been praying for several people who have cancer. Unfortunately, two of them have a terminal diagnosis. My prayer has been for comfort for the person and their family. I received word that one is doing better than could be expected and the family knows it is because of the outpouring of prayer. The other one went to be with the Lord a few days ago. ❤️
Why, Lord?
I struggle when I hear people being diagnosed with cancer. I struggle because I don’t understand why cancer can’t be cured. I also struggle because I’ve lost many family members to cancer. On one side of my family alone, my grandpa buried a daughter, his wife and two sons because of cancer. My dad died 5 years ago due to lung cancer. He was given 3-6 months to live, but he lived over 2 years after being diagnosed. My dad was a fighter!
As I struggle and wrestle with my feelings, I focus on verses like this:
Psalm 34:18 – The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.
The verse reassures us that even in moments of sorrow and aching hearts, God is near. It acknowledges the struggles of the brokenhearted and offers the promise of divine closeness and salvation. In times of sadness, this verse invites individuals to turn to God, finding peace in knowing He is intimately present, ready to provide comfort and support. This becomes a source of hope, reminding us that we are not alone in our sadness and that, through divine grace, healing is possible.
What can I do?
- Acknowledge the Rollercoaster of Emotions: Grieving someone diagnosed with, or who has passed away from cancer can be an emotional rollercoaster. Busy women may find themselves grappling with feelings of sadness, guilt, and anxiety. It’s crucial to acknowledge these emotions, allowing space for self-compassion and understanding during this challenging time.
- Find Time for Self-Care: Small, intentional moments of self-care can make a significant difference. Whether it’s taking a short walk, practicing mindfulness, or enjoying a favorite cup of tea, these moments provide much-needed respite.
- Find Support in Unlikely Places: Busy women often excel at shouldering responsibilities, but during times of grief, it’s essential to lean on others for support. Whether it’s sharing your feelings with a friend, joining a support group, or seeking professional counseling, embracing a support network can be a vital source of strength.
- Creating a Grief Journal: A grief journal can be a portable sanctuary for busy women to navigate their emotions. Use it to jot down thoughts during a lunch break, express feelings during a quiet evening, or reflect before going to bed. The journal becomes a personalized space to process grief at one’s own pace.
- Celebrate Life Amid Grief: Grieving doesn’t mean abandoning joy. Celebrate the life of your loved one by cherishing positive memories. Engage in activities that bring happiness and allow moments of laughter, finding a delicate balance between honoring the grief and embracing the love that persists.
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Revelation 21:4:
“He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.” And He who was seated on the throne said, “Behold, I am making all things new.”
Knowing that the pain my dad, and others, endured while they had cancer is now gone… knowing that God is making all things new… is the only way I can be thankful in all circumstances, as God calls us to do in I Thessalonians 5:18. It is my prayer than you, too, can find comfort if you are struggling with this issue as well.
Conclusion
Grieving a loved one diagnosed with cancer is a unique journey that busy women navigate amidst their already demanding lives. By acknowledging emotions, embracing self-care, and incorporating a grief journal, women can find moments of peace and comfort. In the midst of life’s chaos, the journey through grief becomes not only a process of healing but also a testament to the resilience of the human spirit.
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